Calm After The Storm - Silence!

Dealing with the 'Silences' of COVID-19
Over the past weeks and months, there has been the storm of COVID-19 Pandemic. Governments of many nations and their citizens watched in horror the ravaging effects of this unimaginable disease called COVID-19. Though many heads have been battered by this disease, some loved ones fallen to its wicked arrows, and many still in shock of the force, we, as a nation, can proudly say that we did our little bits! Though we are physically distancing, we remain psychologically connected and continue to wage the war against the storm of COVID-19.
After the storm comes the calmness, stillness or silence! What do these words mean? To some, they mean
1)Dis-aggregation from ‘objectification to personification i.e. from NHS (distant object) to identifiable faces (doctors, nurses, healthcare professionals, mums, dads, uncles etc) (Personified).
2)The reality of the loss of loved ones, of jobs, of relationships, of sense of self
3)The reality of the uncertainty and anxiety about returning to work
4)Yet another change to the new normal: #stayhome, #homeoworking, #multitasking.
5)New beginnings, adventures and exploration of opportunities
Each of these meanings of silence stirs up in people different emotions, thoughts and behaviours.
Rising Emotions
1)Fear of contracting the disease. People continue to make many emotion-laden decisions resulting in unpleasant consequences
2)Anger: against the mixed messages from different quarters. Some reliable and others not very reliable.
3)Anxiety: unknown, unfinished business. As long as there are still deaths from COVID-19, it will continue to be an unfinished business and the uncertainty will continue to hover.
4)Low (Depressive) mood.
5)Guilt for surviving: ‘why did I survive and my …… did not’. In some situations, the carriers were not affected but they infected others who died as a result.
6)Helplessness
7)Powerlessness
8)Confusion
Prominent Behaviours
1)Rebellion/resistance to established systems from government, schools and healthcare professionals etc. People consciously do the opposite of what they are told to do irrespective of the merits or demerits of the instructions.
2)Critical of authority, self, others for decisions made or not made.
3)Hyper-vigilance: this could lead to or worsen people’s pre-existing mental health problems such as health anxiety, OCD, social anxiety, etc.
4)Resignation: This often follows a sense of powerlessness, hopelessness and helplessness many people are feeling during this pandemic crisis. It can also be seen in situations of multiple losses and complex grief/bereavements.
Dealing with the silences
For many people, these silences (calmness or stillness) will in no distant time fade way and life carries on as usual. For some others however, these silences can be deafening and overwhelming. They are faced with the ‘now’ reality which is unbearable.
To deal with the emotions and behaviours, you will need to
1)Evaluate your personal situation
2)Identify whether you are coping well or not
3)If not, seek professional help. The sooner you start to deal with it, the more likely you will regain your balance
If you need professional assistance in dealing with any of the above COVID-19 related issues, please contact us at dr.oby@fcc-clinics.com / www.fcc-clinics.com
Stay safe and psychologically connected
Dr.Oby@FCC Clinics - Global Health









